The Biblical Trustee Family – What Does This Mean for a Mother in Her Home?
I am getting excited about promoting a concept that the late RJ Rushdoony expressed in “The Biblical Trustee Family”, which appeared in the January Keystone (or view it at: http://www.chalcedon.edu/articles/article.php?ArticleID=2794.
Let’s look at this again in many typical families:
* The children go to school.
* Mum or Dad are out 2 or 3 nights a week.
* Children have school sports/music/drama/dance practices after school many afternoons.
* Children have school sports/music/drama/dance com-petitions/performances on many Saturdays.
* Children have social and hobby clubs 1 or 2 nights a week.
* Children have homework nearly every night of the week.
* Children go to Sunday School during the Sunday Worship Service.
* Children go to Rally then Youth Group then Young Adults every year they’re at home.
* There are weekend camps to take children away from home several times a year.
* Then children want to go on overnight stays every so often.
So what does a Biblical Trustee Family look like:
1. Father has a vision for the entire family and the future.
2. Father sees his vocation/calling/ministry as that part of God’s Creation over which he is to exercise dominion and stewardship on behalf of Jesus Christ, his Lord.
3. Wife and children fulfil their roles by helping Father fulfil his role.
4. Strong interpersonal relationships are both a cause and effect of the family working and pulling together.
5. A unified family’s projects tend to be larger in scale, facilitating involvement and greater influence for Christ in the community.
6. Children honour, obey and love being with their parents…and onlookers are both astounded and blessed.
Then to take this further, how does it look in a multigenerational family:
placed strictly in a trusteeship, in a position of custodial powers. The authority of the husband, and of the wife, is not personal but theological and is a trusteeship for God first of all, and then the family. Therefore the head of the trustee family looks to lead by means of service, education and discernment – not by laying down the law or lording it over his wife and children – with an eye toward future generations and their life of service and obedience to the Living God. In this way the family becomes the basic church, state, school, society, welfare agency and social power, all performed in terms of God’s law and grace. In this way the godly family commands the future.”
So as a mother I have choices. I can be foolish and with my own hands tear down my house by working outside my husband’s/family’s calling; by spending too much time in front of the computer, TV, on the phone, etc. Or I can be wise and build my house (Proverbs 14:1) by taking dominion over my role as a wife and mother. This means being there for my husband and children all the time; helping my husband in his business and ministry and voluntary work; training my children in Godliness, not just giving them busy work while I do my thing; working out our goals and working through them each day. I think we will find that the highest goals just require us to spend time with the children: we can rule the world by rocking the cradle.
Taking Dominion as a wife and mother helps us in so many areas. We don’t take any nonsense from our children, as we know what is best for them. It helps us to be more consistent in disciplining and discipling our children. Because we are confident in God, we are confident in taking charge, enforcing God’s standards upon our children and households — because He has appointed us, not we ourselves, and because we are striving to extend His Kingdom on earth, not work our own personal agendas. Taking Dominion helps us to rise above both depression and burnout since we are focussed less on ourselves and more on Him. Since He is calling the shots, our goals and workloads are more realistic. We set clear and proper priorities, start at the top of the list, work through as many as make us comfortably stretched each day and don’t fret about the rest. The next day is a new day, so we start afresh at the top of the list, for His mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 2:22-23; Matthew 6:33-34).
Our children are with us for too short a time. It goes so fast especially when you realise that the main time for influencing children is up until about ages 10-12. We can loose our children’s hearts very easily. Then it is hard work regaining them. Let us take Dominion from the beginning and work hard at training our children. God does not promise that it will be easy. Most nights we will fall into bed tired if not exhausted. But “He gives to His beloved sleep,” (Psalm 127:2; Ecclesiastes 5:12).
Our children thrive when we take Dominion: when they know we’re taking charge and their days are full of training, dicipleship and discipline. “Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her; ‘Many women have done excellently, but
you surpass them all’” (Proverbs 31:28-29).
From Keystone Magazine
April 2008, Vol. XIV No. 74
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